#SelfhelpSaturday (4 – 14 – 18)

paint color

The above picture shows the color I chose for the living room. (Acier Gray: Sherwin Williams )

Late Friday night, I finished up painting two walls of my living room a beautiful matte gray.  The paint has a very neat and clean finish.  I chose a matte finish as it seems to be so pleasing and easy on the eyes.  Painting two walls doesn’t sound like much work to most who will read this blog… or may not even sound like much of an accomplishment. After moving the furniture, cleaning the walls, patching any screw or nail holes and taping off the trim/crown molding, I felt like I had completed a pretty intense project.  All while keeping a 3 year old, occupied. Of course she had to help mommy paint the walls.  She really did most of the painting, I just trailed behind her and spread all the globs out.  LOL!  My goodness, what I wouldn’t give for her level of energy again.

I was just looking up my color choice and found that there is a shade called : Mindful Gray.  That will be my next paint choice, maybe for the hallway.  Here it is pictured below.

mindful gray

I wrote about procrastination and a few methods that can help everyone to not put off projects until the last minute.  Rather, get started on those projects by diving in.  Stop putting things off.  Painting my living room was one of the projects I had been putting off.  It was the fault of my thoughts, obviously.  I had tossed around all the work that would be required to complete said project, and those thoughts bouncing around in my mind kept me from just diving in.

The beauty into diving into any project you may be avoiding, is of course that initial feeling of accomplishment once you complete it.  It also provides more energy within to tackle other things you have been avoiding.  It has a way of propelling us forward to complete tasks we once felt would be too much work.  Just being mindful about my attitude towards projects makes me aware of the priority of the task.  I have found if a task is mundane or redundant I will put it off until it absolutely has to be done.  I am hoping to change my attitude about these tasks.  If I am successful, dishes and laundry should be mostly done everyday.  LOL!

I know that I am not alone in my attitude with procrastination and the good feelings it can provide us after we have invested the hard-work required. sherwin williams

We had a ball tournament for my son this weekend and it was blistery cold.  The wind blowing at least 20-25 mph.  I nearly froze.  They ended up with the 2nd place title after losing the 2nd game on Saturday, then playing numerous games on Sunday (back to back) to get back to the championship game.  I know that my son was tuckered out. He fell asleep just as soon as he had some good food in his tummy.

On Saturday, after he had played a couple games we all sat down to eat a meal at a wonderful restaurant here in Oklahoma called, La Baguette.  The food is always amazing, and they ran out of our choice desserts before we were ready to order them.  We still found some delicious tasty treats to cure our sweet tooth.

la-baguette

I noticed that my son was being very quiet.  He is a normally very calm and quiet individual regardless and maybe this quiet is only noticeable to his mother.  At any rate, we started talking because I wanted to know what was on his mind.  He told me that he didn’t really want to play baseball anymore.  This actually wasn’t true once we talked it all out.  He was almost ready to make a decision based on how he was feeling.  He liked baseball.  The truth was he wasn’t too happy about a few things that happened with his performance and the reaction he received from his coaches.  I was able to talk him through it.  If I had not been mindful of his behavior, had I not been there to just listen to him and ask questions and use methods that I personally have to use he may not have understood what he was going through and could have performed poorly on Sunday.  His perception of the game would have been different and he may have felt that he was being forced to play.  I could see a remarkable difference in his performance on Sunday and I am proud of my son to see how sometimes feelings can get in the way, and it is helpful to talk about those feelings, to be heard, and to have those feelings validated.  I am so thankful for my babies and hope to continue working on myself so that I am walking proof that any one of us can overcome obstacles. The small ones, the big ones, the surprise ones.  I am helping myself today by staying focused on the little people that hold a huge place in my heart.

Have a great day!

Being Mindful & Being Present

The post today will cover my thoughts and feelings on being mindful and my mental health self-evaluation. I have found that the self-discovery continues, and as I dive deeper into how I process life, my reactions to situations and people, the more I’m realizing how much Borderline Personality Disorder has continued to create turmoil in my personal and professional life.

I missed my opportunity to post yesterday, and oddly enough I should have posted not just because I want to write everyday… but, I want my Thursday posts to be about being mindful.  So I did live my life yesterday with intention.  I had counseling, so my entire day was focused on being mindful.  I spent most of my day being present with my daughter.  We went to the library after dropping big brother off at school, we both found a couple of books and she enjoyed playing with the nice Lego table they have for the little people. I watched her enjoy building and creating new things.  She built a beach that had an alligator and Lego people.  She said, “This was so much fun, mom!”  It was fun to watch my little girl analyze all of the little pieces available to her and what she would do with each piece while creatively building this beach.  She is so imaginative. I don’t remember using my imagination half as much as she does.  I am so blessed to be her mommy.

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Counseling went very well.  We went over the “How” on being more mindful.  My counselor had one of the books I was looking for at the library.  They didn’t have it, so I felt blessed to be able to borrow one of the books that the kids’ counselor had suggested.  The book is called  “One Minute Mindfulness” by Donald Altman.  I will start reading that wonderful piece of literature after I finish the book that I just checked out from the library.  The one I am currently reading is called “Choose The Life You Want.”  by Tal Ben-Shahar.  I have already finished 7 chapters, and really like it.  Chapter 7, is called Procrastination.  Who is guilty of this?  Most everyone, right?  The author says to use a helpful technique called “The Five-Minute Takeoff.”  I can see how this method would be helpful.  The objective here is to just dive into that project or chore that you need to accomplish for five minutes.  Once you do this for five minutes you are at a better place than you were before, because now you are actually doing something productive and not procrastinating, but acting.  I am about to use this technique to paint some walls in the living room.  I bought the can of paint several weeks ago… and yes I wanted to paint right away, but I had too many other things that stopped me.  I did what I normally do, I complied to my feelings to just procrastinate.  I feel that I am always waiting for the perfect time to paint.  Folks the truth is this – Perfect timing doesn’t exist.  procrastinating

Click here for more advice on how to beat procrastination!!

Self-evaluation.  I feel more aware, and less on autopilot.  I have been living so much like a zombie and never realizing why (minus the eating and craving brains part).  My past included an established a routine, something easy and comfortable.  I could easily set my destination on Michelle’s Map as “just get through the day.” (like a google map, but more accurate).  I have literally coasted through a full day before on numerous occasions.  I have had moments throughout those days where I would kind of catch myself realizing that I was just going through the motions, and I would say to myself… “this is so easy, I am doing things and not even thinking about them.”  WTH?  Why do I do this?  I love being present and intentional so much more.  It really does awaken our spirit.  When we take time to pay attention and be present. It is more about experiencing the things around me, the things that make up my world right now.  Appreciating the small and delicate details of the people and experiences we are blessed to share.  I am learning that this is truly one of the biggest blessings in life.  Our ability to experience, to see, hear, speak, touch, feel, taste.  I am so very rich to be given these things.  I will not take these great blessings for granted ever again.  Life is a wonderful thing, you just have to be mindful of all of those wonderful things it consists of.

Bless you,

Be intentional today and as you listen today pay attention to the message, as you talk today be true to your heart and mind, as you feel notice the texture and temperature, as you inhale notice the natural aroma of your home or the environment.  As you take notice of the things around you, look at it with the amazement, like that of a child, that is seeing it for the first time.  Life is really amazing, and being mindful of that really can change your mood.